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Spanking can lead to relationship violence, study says
#11
We were spanked til the age of ten, rarely, and often by mom (three or four ceremonial swats), so we had to pretend it hurt. It was important to her or she wouldn't have done it, and that was the Big Impression. After ten, no more spankings, as "grounding" became a meaningful reality. I was also finally allowed to have my hair cut at ten and did it on my birthday, but it was no big accomplishment, just a milestone, like "no more spankings at this point, you're expected to talk, listen and reason." Sweet guilt to have had that amicable balance and transition.
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#12
(12-06-2017, 10:52 PM)Free Store Wrote: After I was spanked, after years latter examined this very topic. A child is their own person owned by nobody. Parents are the giver of life and supporter of the child that is where it stops. My mom had old fashioned thinking. A child should be seen, not heard. My personality has never changed no matter what.
Mom had a pet name for me. Mr.know it all. Well children talk all the time. It's a way of learning. We all talk and learn on the net and back and forth to one another over a tea. IMO if spanking became illegal? Oh what a better world it can be..  Anger can motivate sexual abuse to murder...

Sounds like you were abused..
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(12-06-2017, 11:13 PM)Blue Wrote:
(12-06-2017, 10:52 PM)Free Store Wrote: After I was spanked, after years latter examined this very topic. A child is their own person owned by nobody. Parents are the giver of life and supporter of the child that is where it stops. My mom had old fashioned thinking. A child should be seen, not heard. My personality has never changed no matter what.
Mom had a pet name for me. Mr.know it all. Well children talk all the time. It's a way of learning. We all talk and learn on the net and back and forth to one another over a tea. IMO if spanking became illegal? Oh what a better world it can be..  Anger can motivate sexual abuse to murder...

Sounds like you were abused..

Much is learned when being spanked..
 The Sign Says, Quiet. Yo Yo's On Strings !
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(12-06-2017, 11:26 PM)Free Store Wrote:
(12-06-2017, 11:13 PM)Blue Wrote:
(12-06-2017, 10:52 PM)Free Store Wrote: After I was spanked, after years latter examined this very topic. A child is their own person owned by nobody. Parents are the giver of life and supporter of the child that is where it stops. My mom had old fashioned thinking. A child should be seen, not heard. My personality has never changed no matter what.
Mom had a pet name for me. Mr.know it all. Well children talk all the time. It's a way of learning. We all talk and learn on the net and back and forth to one another over a tea. IMO if spanking became illegal? Oh what a better world it can be..  Anger can motivate sexual abuse to murder...

Sounds like you were abused..

Much is learned when being spanked..

What we learned depends on the type of spanking, and the attitude of the parent when doing the spanking.
If it is done with love (as in "this hurts me more than it hurts you"), and appropriate spankings are done not out of anger but out of concern for the child's safety if they don't mind ... That is when we learn discipline.

If it is done in anger and harshness ... Well, that is abuse.
"Let thy food be thy medicine and thy medicine be thy food." - Hippocrates
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#15
I don't know what there is to defend. Mom called it "hard love"... Kids have rights. Women have rights. It is not ok to touch a woman in an inappropriate manner. So shall the child be protected.
 The Sign Says, Quiet. Yo Yo's On Strings !
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 The Sign Says, Quiet. Yo Yo's On Strings !
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#17
for some reason none of my spanking GIFs .....seems to be appropriate....
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